Please help me on my question i really need to know what to do?

Smartdiva, calm down. It's OK.

You are in a hard position, but it is a fully normal one. Having a baby is a big step, but while worrying is perfectly normal, if you are depressed and anxious it is even worse for you and the baby.

Learning to manage without medication is difficult, but you can do it. Here are some things that may help.

- Ask for support from your husband or partner and from the rest of your family. Let yourself be fussed over. It is OK to relax and put your feet up. If your mom or sister wants to help you, let her. Talk to your friends about your worries. You will find you are not the only one. Join a support group or moms' group.

- Eat a good balanced diet, with lots of fresh foods. Stay away from processed items or things with lots of sugar. But don't try to lose weight while you are pregnant.

- Get as much exercise as you can. It will really help. Yoga is also very good for you, it will give you flexibility in stretching and help you to breathe deeply.

- Pray or meditate, according to your religious tradition. Concentrate on an appropriate religious symbol, for instance if you are Catholic you can pray to the Virgin Mary.

You are going through a phrase of hormone changes due to your pregnancy. It is normal, some women have very mild changes , some are like yours.

Talk this over with your husband and your family who can support you but don't talk to people who do not understand as they will add more worries to you. Most probably you also have food cravings. Do give in to your cravings moderately, never suppress your cravings as it will make you more depressed. Depending on the term of your pregnancy, you can perform various exercises to boost your mood, to improve sleeping quality and blood circulation to reduce back and joint pains. The secret is enjoy the exercise routine and never to overdo it. For further information on emotional problems and health problems during pregnancy and other related topics, click the link to babycenter.com (US) http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-best-kinds-of-exer cise-for-pregnancy_7880.bc

Whenever you find yourself surging with emotion, take a deep and full breath until your chest is up and your stomach is full. Hold for 5 counts and slowly release your breath. Do this 3 times and you will feel better. Having a short nap in the afternoon from 1 to 3pm just after lunch helps to rest your body and mind. If you find your mind is empty, try fill your mind with a uplifting song. It can be "God is good, God is so good, is so good to me" or Celine Dion's Brahm's Lullably is also good for you and your baby.

Talk therapy or cognitive therapy have been show to be as effective as drugs in mild and even moderate depression.
Ask your doctor for a referral to a trusted councillor who they know to be good.

Other things you can do are mindfulness meditation- usually presented as a six week course of practice, or yoga with a teacher who emphasises relaxation and wellbeing of the whole body rather than yoga just as an exercise.

Naps are a good idea if you feel absolutely worn out and it's making you tearful, but don't nap so long that it disturbs your sleep at night.

A small amount of excercise is essential, and if you can get outdoors in the middle of the day- sometime between 11am and 2pm when the day is brightest, it will boost your mood. So for example a half hour walk at that time would be good, even better if you do it with a friend, and maybe have a cup of tea and a chat afterwards.

As for diet- follow the advice of your doctors but also add two or three portions of oily fish (not tuna, or shark or large predator fish). Fish oil is not only good for your baby, it is also good for mood stabilisation. If you can't tolerate fish, then take a good quality fish oil supplement.

But most of all, relax when you can, don't let yourself get too tired, and above all, rejoice in your baby. You know you will get through these months, and you'll be a great mum.

St. John's Wort and Valerian Root at night. You don't need medication. Herbs can help you get rid of depression and anxiety also.

Auntcoffee thank you so much for your answer! I do have support from my boyfriend he's with me every step of the way. I don't know what's wrong with me that I take my anger n lashes out at him for no reason but my boyfriend sometime find ways to calm me down when I'm breaking down but something we walk away from each that I jus don't want to be bother! I tried everything of erasing my depression and anxiety but there's no getting away from it. See I have this bestfriend of 13 yrs who I confident in but she totally put my business out to everyone I don't know I really can't trust no one and I keep my personal things to myself and just talk my problem over with my doctor and my boyfriend.@solomonkid I want to thank you for your answer! I speak to my doctor and I tell her everything she's needs to know and I don't keep anything from her. I do workout to help me thru my depression and anxiety and sometime it does work I only have support from my boyfriend and no one else! I do eat a lot not only cause I'm pregnant but its a habit of tryin to eat my depression awaythanks you so much for the site I will indeed will be looking thru the site! @cathd your answer will walk me thru this and I want to thank you for takin the time in answering my question! I tried yoga and napping but in my living situation I really can't nap or pray with how things are going in my sister house! There are certain things here that trigga my depression and anxiety and I know its not good for my baby of what I'm going thrubut I'm doing my best to try to work thru this depression and anxiety. I haveall the support I need from my boyfriend. Thanks everyone

You could try some relaxation techniques. When I want to relax I use deep slow belly breathing, visualize that I am at a relaxing place like the beach and tell myself I am becoming more and more relaxed while counting down from 10. Relaxing your body parts from your head to your feet also helps. To do that you just use self talk and say something like "Relax my scalp, relax my forehead" etc.

To reduce the negative thoughts that are causing the anxiety find something else to focus on.

Thanks!

Just pray and thank God for your new baby that is coming..and read this too:
Have you ever spent any time with a 3 year old child?
My granddaughter can look at the same dvd everyday. Each time she sees it, she is just as excited as if she had seen it for the first time.

Maybe we should take lessons from a 3 year old.
Everyday be excited about life as if we are seeing it for the first time.

Hi! I'm sorry for what you are going through right now. My advise would be to try and find something to help you cope. Crying is an excellent coping mechanism and I don't think it's bad in and of itself. Something that helps me when I'm feeling stressed or depressed is to set aside a specific time where I can focus on something that helps me escape from my life for at least an hour. Whether you decide to exercise (yoga I believe is beneficial for pregnant women but I would ask your doctor) read, or play video games (great way to get some of your aggression or frustration out), I think this may help you. Best of luck and just keep fighting! You're going to have a beautiful baby after this and he/she will be a great reward for the suffering you are going through now.