I don't think that you can ever win with a probation officer. Sometimes you need to just suck it up and try to get along with them. Even if you are right about being able to work at any type of community service, there are so many rules and regulations that you signed as part of probation, it is extremely easily to be violated. Attending a class late, missing a class, missing an appointment, staying at a friends house on vacation and leaving your "area" without permission, random drug screens,and failing to report new charges could wind you up in jail, even if you have valid reasons.

I would recommend speaking to your probation officer and letting them know that you really appreciate all that they are doing for you and leave it at that. I would then wait a day or two, and visit the probation officer personally and have "plan" of how you want to handle your community service at the provider of your choice. I would make sure that you have an outline of the what the community service entails with specific dates and times that you will be working, and the estimated time that you will have everything completed. I would also include a letter from the person supervising the work that states that they are interested in working with you and that they need you for their non-profit organization.

If the probation officer is not impressed, at least you will have some good mitigation if you are violated for not completing your community service hours.

I would file a complaint against your Probation Officer through the State Attorney's Office. I know of a few probation officers that shouldn't of had that job, and alot of the lawyers thought they were a joke to the system. Don't be afraid to report this person, if they are abusing their authority the system needs to know about it. Put in for a request for a new probation officer, keep records and let someone know about this abuse. You may even want to get a free consultation with a lawyer, for any physical damages that may have been caused due to the work load that has been put on you. Report this person, to the authorities.

I would take the paperwork that you have from the state or feds which placed you on disability and show it to her and have her place it in your C-file, if she still persist, go in and speak to the supervisor, that will get her off you and quite possibly get you a different agent. I hope this helps? Good luck.

Are you licensed/certified to give massage in your state? There's only six states that don't require it. Could be she doesn't want you getting into legal trouble for providing services you are not licensed to perform, violating your probation and getting sent back to prison.