OK this is my stand on this , i myself always would do this, id get the heck out of dodge and get me another life and leave this stuff behind, and tell her to get on with hers because i would not waste the time for this non sense, and if she can not find out without you leaving then leave and find some one that cares, iam this way , if they say stuff like that they are not really into you that much and i know that you love her, but i justydont work thisa way, and theres to much life and fun out there to live like this a min more, and thats my take but you have your way and you do whats right for you, .

Go to a christain book store and get the workbook making love last forever by Dr. Garry Smalley. It has saved many marriages including my own. It is a program thats built to fix your self through gods will. Give it a chance. Fireproof is a great one to also the movie. You have to be devoted to this program to make it work.

Marriage is a lot of work and bailing out is not the answer. You made a commitment for life--for better or worse. The previous anwser had some good material to get. I vote with him. Going through the rough times only makes your relationship stronger in the end. All things are possible if you both put God first. I pray that you both decide to work at your marriage. After all--anything worth having is worth working for.

You have to step up and do every thing to save your marriage because it seems you still love your wife and do not want to get separated on the first place. If she is depressed and anxious as you mentioned may be a good psychiatrist and or psychologist will help. You should not just be nice and agree with someone when they are making a mistake especially when they are depressed and cant come to an inteligent decision.

To begin with, I'd like to know where the diagnosis of depression came from. Was it a professional diagnosis or a self-diagnosis? Big difference between the two. If your wife is truly suffering from clinical depression, I would be very reluctant to leave her alone without first seeking professional help, advice and treatment. It may very well be that she does need some time alone to sort things out, but I wouldn't go forward with that until an informed professional gives you the green light to do so. Once she's properly treated, only then would she hopefully have a clear enough head to rationally figure out what's best for the both of you. It sounds like she is very conflicted about this: on the one hand, she is anxiety-ridden about the impending separation and on the other hand, she is convinced that separation is the only way for her to be alone long enough to figure it all out. So, as much as I understand the extreme inner pain you're going through, you've made it pretty clear that fighting your wife on this is only going to make her all the more defiant. Having said that, I feel that your best option is to support her decision as best as you are able, because as it is, she already feels like everyone else is going to gang up on her, so . . . if she feels as though you're in her corner, this could work to your advantage. Having a child together will also force the two of you to keep an open line of communication, which is important because at some point you're going to have to confront and talk through the "past mistakes" you've made, which I suspect is a much bigger issue than you've made it out to be. But again, I think that your support is key to the recovery of your marriage. You'll be walking a fine line between showing how painful this is for you without burdening her with it. Good Luck.

If you love something, set it free. If it doesn't come back, it wasn't yours to begin with.

Thank you so much for your answer!!! A reality check is what I needed. I believe that your comments pretty much hit the mark on our situation at hand. There is a very strong bond between us that I would like us to keep in tact, so I will follow your advice, and support her decision as best as I possibly can. I will take care of our Son and live my life while keeping an open line of communication with my Wife. Patience with no pressure will be my ally. Thank you!!!.........and thanks to all who answered my question.